She nurtured me!

She nurtured me!

When I look back and think about my childhood, there are so many beautiful memories. The ones that seemed quite harsh back then seem to have blunted with the passage of time. I guess growing up and becoming a parent gives you rare perspective. What seemed unreasonable and harsh behavior by your parents or siblings now seems to make sense as you have your own kids.

I have written both about my father and mother on my blog several times. Each of them has left an indelible mark on my life making me the person that I am today. They showed me love and compassion in a family. They showed me how to stay afloat when nothing seems to go right for you. They also showed me never to shy away from living your dreams. You can never thank your parents enough, can you now? But, you can always hope to pass on the love, compassion and values that they inculcated in you.

I would also love to mention my elder sister. It is often unusual to have a sibling who is more like a parent figure in your life. I remember her being this absolutely compassionate, considerate soul even in the childhood. She would save me and my younger brother from the ire of parents never ratting out our mischief to them. Even at a young age, she had taken on many of my responsibilities like helping me with homework or ironing my school uniform. She was the person I went to for projects or help with assignments. She also wholeheartedly supported me and offered me guidance both academically and otherwise in life. We were really thick throughout childhood. She was almost 6 years older to me. We shared similar views and wavelengths. We were more like friends. She always encouraged me to travel, go for campsย and to study what I wanted. She even stood by me in support with my choice of life partner.

She enabled me to think independently and take my own decisions. Her gentle advice which is very similar to my fatherโ€™s is never overbearing or absolute. She gives her inputs and then trusts the adult in me to take the right call. When I was doing my MBA in Mumbai and living in a PG accommodation, she used to give me money to spend as I liked. She knew that a college student would often like to indulge. She never asked how I spent that money. Her implicit trust made me responsible. I was always independent but the love and support of loved onesย made me use my independence wisely and responsibly.

Today, so many years later, it is she I approach with just about any problem, issue or gossip. ๐Ÿ™‚ I know she always has my best interest in her heart. I know she is always watching my back. That is such a comforting thought. Again, I wonโ€™t thank her because that is who she is โ€“ generous and giving. I would just love to pass on the love and compassion to continue this cycle of loving and cherishing.

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17 thoughts on “She nurtured me!

  1. I can so relate to this one, having an elder sister who is nearly 13 years older than me and who has been the mother, friend and philosopher in my life ever since I can remember. The best thing is that she never hesitates to point it out when I err in any way and genty guide me back to the right path. What would we do without our elder sisters ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. Absolutely! I have read about your sister. I have seen my own sister slip gently into mom’s role after she passed away. When people like dad and sister with such high moral compasses and responsibilities are there to look up to, it is no wonder that my brother and I live responsibly as well. What would we do without them, indeed. ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. Hey
    Nice to read your post of sisters.
    I too have en elder sis, so I well understand your feelings. Sisters share a great bond and nothing is comparable to that. sharing, caring, loving its all that.

    1. They are, Nabanita. I can see what a beautiful elder sister you are to your younger sister. I can see it by the way your eyes light up when you talk about her. Hugs!

  3. How uncanny! I was just chatting with Tulika about sisters and I came to read this post ๐Ÿ™‚ I am the elder sister so most of what you said about your sis applies to me ๐Ÿ˜‰ But, in all honesty, I think the sibling relationship is amazing because it has a special something about it. We dote on each other and she has confided her deepest secrets to me when she ever did anything wrong. We don’t talk everyday but we still can pick up the phone and jabber away for hours on end when we do ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. Uncanny, indeed. Sisters are truly a blessing especially when they are as considerate and loving as mine is. Considering that you are such a warm and mature person, I can imagine that your sister must be cherishing the relationship she shares with you. I count my blessings to have these rocks to anchor and guide me in my life.

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